If you wish to please, you will find it wiser to receive-solicit even-favours, than accord them; for the vanity of the obliger is always flattered-that of the obligee rarely.
"Pelham, Complete"
Edward Bulwer-Lytton Last Updated: March 16, 2009
The notions of the obliged are changed, those of the obliger ought to change also.
"The George Sand-Gustave Flaubert Letters"
George Sand, Gustave Flaubert Translated by A.L. McKensie
Should he also observe, that riches employed in another manner, in removing the real miseries of humanity, in cherishing, comforting, and supporting all around, produced a contrary effect, and tended equally to make the obliged and the obliger happy; should he conceal this great eternal truth, or should he divulge it with all the authority he possessed, conscious, that in whatever degree it became the rule of human life, in the same degree would it tend to the advantage of all the world?
"The History of Sandford and Merton"
Thomas Day